Being a Renaissance Mom means that you’re busy – between family, work (typically the entrepreneurial type), getting an education, and all those other things in life, your schedule is full. It also means that the joys in life are important to you, and one of those joys is having time all to yourself.
But that’s pretty hard to come by, isn’t it? Well, not if you make time for yourself happen by implementing these strategies.
Create a Schedule
Establish a schedule complete with your husband’s after-work appointments, your kids’ extracurricular activities and everything in between. Now, schedule some “me time” at least once a week. Maybe it’s lunch with some girlfriends, or a relaxing manicure on a Saturday morning. Whatever it is, once you actually put it on your schedule as if it’s an appointment, you’re more likely to make time for yourself happen.
Routine, Routine, Routine
In addition to a schedule, you need to have a daily routine. Establish what time everyone gets up, when breakfast is served, when everyone needs to be ready and out the door, homework time, when dinner will be on the table at night, or bedtime. Make small tasks, like packing lunches and sitting out clothes for tomorrow, part of your evening routine. Sticking to a routine will create harmony instead of chaos, which means more available time.
Make a shopping list and stick to it when you go to the store, because you’ll spend less time when you know what you need. Make a list of the things that need to be done around the house, assigning one small task to each weekday and larger tasks to the weekend. If the kids are old enough, give them a daily chores list. If you need to go run errands in multiple locations, make a list of all the places you need to go and what you need to do while you’re there to optimize your time.
Limit Your Commitments
A crucial element to making sure you create time for yourself is learning how to say “no” when someone asks for your help. This is often hard for women – moms have a tendency to want to help everyone. Doing so, however, means you don’t get the time you deserve for yourself. So limit your commitments. For example, be on the PTA and attend meetings, but you might want to avoid running for PTA president or volunteering to organize the next bake sale. All of these things take time away from you and your family.
If there just aren’t enough hours in the day, then make time for yourself by getting up before everyone else does in the morning. Go for a jog, read a good book, or simply drink your morning coffee in silence before the world around you kicks into high gear. It’s these simple pleasures and restful quiet moments that will help you to maintain a great attitude throughout the day because you feel good about yourself.
Remember, making time for yourself is crucial to a strong family dynamic. After all, when mom is happy, everyone is happy.