Instinctive Style of Parenting
AP encourages such things as shedding diapers as early on as four-months, with the idea that babies have a natural knowledge of elimination processes.
This is known as “elimination communication,” and was seen more in the days before parenting books. Co-sleeping is also the norm in AP, as for most parents it feels totally natural. One couple’s practice is to keep the young baby in bed and have the 3 and 5-year-olds sleeping alongside the marital bed in their own bed.
Co-sleeping is also beneficial for mothers who have physical difficulties due to C-sections or other birth complications as a way to keep baby close and keep feeding convenient.
Using a sling and other methods of baby-wearing are also favored as a way to keep the child close. While there have been 3 reported incidents of baby suffocation due to the use of slings in the past several years, this has been a traditional way to carry babies for centuries in some cultures. These AP practices all fly in the face of more strict parenting regimes, which may call for things such as keeping the children on routines from a very young age and using controlled crying in an attempt to train the baby. Catherine Verling follows the principles of AP now, although didn’t for her first child.
“Our experience of Attachment Parenting happened after my second son was born. On my first child I followed most of the conventional techniques as this was how I was brought up and it was popular in the media”
“I’d heard of AP but it was contrary to almost everything I was doing. I learned about AP practices and the more I tried them, the more it made sense. Specifically, we co-sleep, baby-wear, use gentle discipline/respectful parenting and my last baby was a home birth.”
Still, many mothers prefer to use the modern conveniences and large amounts of literature on the topic of baby-rearing instead of AP-methods. As one mother states, it’s just another option on the child-rearing spectrum. Regardless of whether parents decide to choose the AP style of parenting, it appears that the style has caught on for many parents. Even without being aware that there is a name for the AP parenting, parents who have chosen to do their “own thing” when it comes to their children find themselves AP parents before they even learn the term.
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